Why Narcissists Love Bomb—And How to Recognize It

In the beginning, it feels like a dream. They text constantly, shower you with compliments, plan elaborate dates, and declare their love within weeks. You've never felt so desired, so understood, so special.

This is love bombing. And it's a trap.

What Is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is an excessive display of attention and affection designed to manipulate you into a relationship faster than you would naturally choose. It's not about love—it's about control.

The Three Phases

Phase 1: The Flood

Constant contact. Extravagant gestures. Future-faking ("We should get married," "Let's move in together"). They mirror your interests, validate your dreams, and seem too good to be true—because they are.

Phase 2: The Hook

Once you're emotionally invested, the mask begins to slip. The texts slow down. Criticism creeps in. You find yourself working harder to recapture that initial magic.

Phase 3: The Cycle

Intermittent reinforcement begins. Occasional bursts of the "old them" keep you hooked, while the baseline treatment deteriorates. You're now addicted to the highs and tolerant of the lows.

Red Flags to Watch

• They push for commitment before you're ready
• They claim you're "soulmates" within weeks
• They monopolize your time and isolate you from others
• They get upset when you need space
• Their affection feels performative

Protection Strategy

Slow down. Healthy relationships don't require urgency. Set boundaries early and watch how they respond. Someone who respects you will respect your pace. Someone who doesn't will reveal themselves.